Do you know about - You Made A Mistake? Way To Go!
Mistakes have gotten a precisely bad rap. whether you call it
an error, a blunder, a screw-up, a faux pas, a gaffe or a
boo-boo, no one wants to be guilty of committing one.
How is You Made A Mistake? Way To Go!
The fear of not performing "up to snuff" leads many people
to procrastinate or even worse, never to act at all. For
many, this has become a major debilitating problem.
Besides the positive lack of productivity and the numerous
aborted projects, this pathological postponement of duties
leads to:
-a guilty conscience
-inability to enjoy our free time
-harsh internal criticism
-severe thinking conflict
-rationalization (that even we ourselves don't believe)
-lowered self-esteem
Our list is hardly unblemished but it's already hideous enough.
So What Is The Big Deal Already?
Why does development a mistake seem like such a life and death
situation for so many of us?
I believe it has to do with the fact that for many of us,
doing things right, studying quickly, being a smart kid, was
likely one of the major sources of appreciation or approval
we ever got. It may have been the Only time we got noticed.
In fact, for those of us who were quick studies, the few
times that we were not able to catch on with lightning speed
caused us great discomfort, as if we were about to be robbed
of our only source of approval, our one and only avenue of
acceptance.
As children, although we may have been praised when we did
something right, we were probably ignored, admonished or
even ridiculed when we weren't able to perform so flawlessly.
As young children, this type of reaction in case,granted us a
mirror or reflection of who we were based solely on our
performance. It defined our value.
As adults, although we might realize intellectually that
making a mistake is not a big deal, that it is a naturally part
of a studying process, we still have a tendency to respond
from a deep emotional level that is no longer relevant.
Would everybody Who Is Not Here Please Leave?
We need to tell these imperceptible critics to shut up, please
leave the room, take a flying leap, or anything else occurs
to us at the moment. We've allowed them to hang nearby for
far too long.
Personally, I prefer the more courteous approach, but since
no one is precisely nearby to get their feelings hurt, you may
wish to just tell these ghosts to get the hell out!
The crucial point is that you make your intention to banish
these disembodied voices crystal clear to yourself. In
actuality, you're the only one you have to think with here.
Allow Me To Illustrate...
Several years ago, I bought myself a piano. This was a
glorious treat for me. I was living in my own place, no
family, no roomies, no boyfriends, nobody but me and my
beloved piano. (And a couple of pussy cats but they didn't
care how I played as long as I kept the food coming!)
Now I could play to my heart's content without any unwanted
listeners lurking about. However, every time I sat down at
the keyboard, the room "filled up" with this invisible
audience, ghostly faces ready to wince at any sour note or
fumbled chord.
I was playing for my ego, trying to win the approval of
these phantom ears floating about my music room. And of
course, the true music got lost in the deal.
Is this anything like what happens to you when you try
something new? Are there imperceptible critics watching over
your shoulder, interfering with your concentration?
It doesn't seem to matter what type of new action we wish
to undertake. It could be something as easy as studying a
new software program or something as ambitious as tackling a
bold new approach to earning a spectacular, living. Is it
possible that the actual goal has gotten lost in the melee
of ego and the fear of not getting it right the first time?
Does the idea of not having a completed blueprint of your
journey preclude you from taking the first step?
Bravo For Blunders
Here's a technique, seemingly easy and silly, but very
effective just the same in combatting this tendency to
stay stuck in our well-worn rut.
When you become aware of any mistake or misstep you have
made, riposte to it in this radically separate way.
Praise yourself for discovering something that did not work.
That's right, be glad! riposte that you are now one step
closer to finding the explication you are after. Yessss!
Now for the precisely leading part. Be positive to acknowledge
to yourself, preferably out loud, that by development the mistake
at hand you did Not suddenly become stupid, puny or otherwise
diminished. Make note of the fact that you are every bit as
solid a man as you were before the mistake, and that you
are now a tad wiser besides. That's it. But do it.
The only way you'll ever learn to feel differently about
yourself is to start feeling differently about yourself. You
and only you control what you think. Think well of yourself.
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